Customs vary in the D/s world (and everywhere else).   What's here applies to the Safe for New Subs, Mystic Pleasures, The New Ds Chat Room, and similar rooms.

Room Manners

    How must I behave?   Am I making a fool of myself?   What are the rules here?   And what will happen if I foul up?

    To answer the last question first:  relax -- you will not get hung from a suspension frame.   At worst, someone will correct you.   When that happens, if it's a Dom or Domme, say, "sorry Sir (or Ma'am), and thank you."

    Nothing requires that you say that, or follow any of the local customs.   D/s emphasizes consent -- each participant respects the community and its customs, and consents to follow them.

    Politeness, and respect for each person in the role s/he has chosen, is the first rule.

In what follows we will cover several aspects of room etiquette: Manners are important.   They reflect on you, and when you have taken a Master or a Protector or Trainer they reflect on that person also.   But don't get uptight about them.   No one behaves perfectly all the time.   Correct really bad booboos, and apologize if necessary.  

The word "Sorry" is the best social lubricant around.

Kyla's Guidelines for New VPlaces D/s Subs
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