While there are other important functions within D/s communities, mentors, teachers, etc., the only one a new sub in VP is likely to encounter is Protector, so that is the one I have included here.   I will discuss Trainers elsewhere.

What is a Protector? A Protector is a Dom or Domme that takes this role for a sub who has no Master.   A Protector usually acts as a mentor, and stands up for the sub against various kinds of harassment.   Beyond that, there is no unanimity as to just what a Protector's role in the VP D/s community is.   It is important that Protector and sub agree from the start on what each expects.

What should I expect a Protector to do?     If you get in trouble, a Protector will help you out of it, either by taking your side if you are unjustly treated or by telling you how to moderate your behavior if you are at fault.   Any Protector should do this.     Other things that a Protector might do are: answer your questions guide your study and education in D/s ways, customs, and manners place limits on your activities, for your safety and as part of your training and development take the blame for these limitations:   "I'm Sorry Sir but my Protector won't let me do that." provide tasks for you, to help you grow and develop. screen Doms who wish to court you, and/or recommend you to Doms who may suit you. be a friend.   [Mine certainly was, and still is.]     One thing that a Protector does NOT do is cyber with protectees.   More on this below.

Does a sub need a Protector?     Look over the list above, and see whether you need a Protector's assistance.   The whole D/s community of subs and Dom/mes will help you in many of these ways.     Every Newbie does need a mentor, some experienced and knowledgable Dom or sub who will guide her and and answer questions.   You may or may not find that a Protector best fills this role.     As a sub I didn't really need a Protector, and for some time did not have one.   But when i did take a Protector it made life more fun and more challenging. If I need a Protector how to I find one?     Talk to several experienced subs.   Most Protectors are found in this way.   Know what you want a Protector to do for you before you talk to the Dom/me about it.    Be aware that unscrupulous persons use the title of Protector as a lure for the unwary.   Click on the shark at left to read about this.   "Players" posing as Protectors often tell subs that cyber (virtual sex) is part of their training, or an exercise in trust.   If anyone tries this line on you spit in his eye.

Do Protectors require subs to obey them?     Only her Master (or a Trainer within the scope of training) may command a sub.   However, Protectors often give instructions that subs feel obliged to follow.   Given the natures of those who choose to be Doms and subs, this is inevitable.   A good Protector is aware of this power and does not misuse it, but incourages a sub's independence.     On this matter, as on others, a sub should be sure there's understanding from the start.   The Dom you want as a Protector will approve of a sub's being careful and cautious.

Is being a sub's Protector a step toward being her Master?     That happens, and sometimes works out, but is not advisable.   A new sub should never take a Protector thinking that he will become her Master.   Many get hurt that way.     An important function for a Protector is to give a sub independent counsel on prospective Masters, and then to advise and guide the sub about contract terms and negotiations.   Being both Protector and prospective Master of an inexperienced sub clearly involves a conflict of interest. But suppose a Protector and sub do wish to make that change?    Then the Protectorship should be dissolved while they court and come to their final agreement.   But only the most savvy and experienced sub should go through this period without independent help and counsel.   An inexperienced sub should have an experienced mentor.   This could well mean that she would take another Protector during their courtship.   Many Dom(me)s would be honored to help in this way.